Fix dcc.Patch() rerunning initial callbacks for all matching elements

[Aaron-Wrote-This]

Fixes where initial callbacks are rerun on all elements when patching in a new element using dcc.Patch()

Issue report here: #3681

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• I have broken down my PR scope into the following TODO tasks
  • Fix callbacks rerunning during dcc.Patch
  • Add test to show it is working
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• I have added tests, or extended existing tests, to cover any new features or bugs fixed in this PR

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